Have you heard this before? If you did, it’s a sign that the person talking to you felt that you were not paying attention. What actually matters in a conversation is making the other feel that you are present at that moment – both mind and body. Not just physically present but mentally absent. Most of us are guilty about this. In these times, we have so many distractions. Sometimes we think about what to say next. Sometimes we’re thinking about something else like errands to do, things to settle, and other endless lists. Women also talk more than men. We talk in any occasion and in every emotion, whether we’re happy or sad, excited or depressed. The other person doesn’t even need to dispense advice. We just like to feel being listened to.
Kids, especially teenagers, are particular about this.
I hope that as parents we can learn to be there for our kids before other people do. How sad it will be if they get this attention from strangers.
It happens to married couples too.
How many marriages have been broken just because somebody else listens to their spouses more. And how many arguments, fights and wars could have been avoided if people just listened more. Even with our prayers, most of us think that it’s a one-way street, we do all the talking (usually asking God for blessings). We forget that God speaks in a still small voice and we have to really take time to be quiet and listen to Him.
The Bible reminds us in James 1:19 “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” This Christmas, may we learn to give time to our loved-ones. Time to listen. Time to know them more. It’s something you can give for free but you will surely reap great benefits. You’ll be surprised of new things you can discover about them… if you just only listen. 😉